Love Notes - Send One to Someone You Care About

“Hey, I just want you to know I love you to the moon and back! Love, Melody”

How does it feel when someone gives you a handwritten note expressing unconditional love for you or appreciating something awesome about you?

Coming from someone you care about, I bet it feels AMAZING, right?!

I’ve been weeding through old letters and cards I’ve received over the decades, and let me tell you it feels so good (so good I kept them for this long! Yes, words of affirmation and physical touch are my top two languages of love). Some I kept, some I scanned, and others I let go.

It is hard to let go of them because the cards are beautiful time capsules of memories I treasure.

It reminds me how over the years my husband and I went through stages of leaving surprise “love notes” for our kids in their lunch boxes, books or beds to express our unconditional love.

A parenting coach and educator Julie Ross suggested it to us when the kids were much younger as written affirmations of our unconditional love or acknowledgment of doing something well. But it is great for all ages.

Our boys never really acknowledged them. Different kids respond differently. I’ve heard some kids keep them for years. Never take it personally. I believe they are meaningful and impactful no matter the response. 

The key is to never use them to manipulate or try to change their behavior. Only to express unconditional love and support. 

Also, don’t check in on whether they received them or what they think of them. Just have fun with it and creative if you want. You can use sticky notes, index cards or get fancy if you are the artsy type.

I’ve been thinking of ways to up-level our support for our kids as we navigate the transcontinental move to Australia and then our travels this Fall together. One approach is to prioritize love notes again.

Even though self-love and self-confidence come from within, we all like to be validated at times. No one likes to operate in a void.

So who could you send a “love-note” to? It can be written, but texts, voice notes and emails are good too.

Maybe even consider leaving a sticky for yourself on your bathroom mirror to read when you come home at the end of the day.

“Hey Beautiful, Just want to remind you how amazing you are!”