Ever notice that voice in your head that says, “I need x to be happy and if I don’t get it I’ll be miserable.” I sure have. My brain loves to think “If I don’t live overseas, I’ll never be truly happy.” Or “If I don't ace this project, it's all over.” These thoughts create stress and spiral when left unchecked. That's your internal Judge and it loves to create extra stress for you.
Luckily, I’m on to my internal Judge these days.
Read MoreEver pause to notice what’s going on in your body when you’re stressed? We're usually so caught up in the circumstances of the moment we don’t stop to check in with ourselves and understand what might really be going on.
When you’re in survival mode it’s hard to think your way out of stress. Next time you experience stress, try tuning into your breath, thoughts and attention. Just observing and getting curious with yourself will relieve some stress.
Many start-up entrepreneurs face daily challenges to their self-confidence.
A frequent one is imposter syndrome (also known as imposter phenomenon or experience since it isn’t a mental disorder), generally defined as a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud.”
As an entrepreneur we wear multiple hats a day, frequently charting new territories. This can be both exciting and nerve racking…
Read MoreI just returned from a magical week of healing breathwork with author, teacher and healer David Elliot. It was an eye-opening and transformative experience. My heart is full of love. David combines breathwork and his intuitive gift of clairaudient hearing to help you reveal deeply buried histories or beliefs that are holding you back.
Read MoreBe your own best friend and watch yourself soar!
I ran a half marathon this past weekend in Newport, RI. When my body got tired the last few miles of the race, it was easy to beat myself up for not training even harder. I “knew” better. I could easily have spiraled into negativity and victimhood. Instead, I…
Read MoreHow often do you worry about something only to realize later that it wasn’t worth your time and energy? Take a few minutes to ponder this.
When I ask people this question, most people say the worry was rarely worth their time. With hindsight, we often recognize that worrying about these situations didn’t add any value and in many cases just made our responses to the situation less productive.
One trick I like to use when I feel worry creeping in is to ask myself the following questions:
Read MoreSometimes you do everything right and things just SUCK. We try our best and things just don't go the way we want them to. What you make that mean is up to you!
You could wallow in the misery of the “suck” and spiral into a negative black hole. Or you could recognize that it’s part of life and the human experience. Feel all the feels but don’t indulge in them. It doesn’t serve you.
Read MoreHave you been experiencing guilt and don’t know what to do about it? Here are three steps you can take to address it.
Read MoreThe same goes for the “mountains” of life. I want to have the capacity to respond to life’s great challenges with a positive mindset rather than a negative one. I don’t want to huff and puff and be miserable along the way. I want to have the mental fitness to handle whatever I choose to take on with confidence and courage.
Read MoreWhat’s on your bucket list of things to do and experience that have been buried underneath all your “adult” responsibilities?
What’s standing in your way of going after them and achieving them?
Read MoreDo you have a lot of stress and overwhelm in your life? Maybe endless to-do lists, difficult colleagues and family that drives you up the wall? Do you crave more calm, ease and fulfillment in your work and personal life?
I hear you and you aren’t alone. I’ve been there and have successfully transformed my life to regularly create more peace and happiness. You can too.
I’d like to invite you to join my next 8-week Mental Fitness group coaching program where you’ll dive into how to identify what's weighing you down and how to show up as your best self.
Read MoreHave you set a big goal, then quickly gotten overwhelmed by the grandness of it and remained stuck? I think most of us can relate. Here are three ways to help you get unstuck and successfully working towards your goal.
Read MoreThere are things every day that make you feel stressed or unhappy.
It could be a long to-do-list, a difficult spouse/boss/colleague/child, a traffic jam, a tight deadline, an annoying project, etc. Whatever it is, your inner Judge and Saboteurs keep your hands on the hot stove of negative emotions, making you feel stressed or unhappy about the world around you. Negative emotions are normal but sometimes they suck.
For today, I’d like to invite you to practice activating your inner Sage response by choosing one of two options when these occasions arise.
Read MoreHow often do you schedule in time to refuel and rejuvenate throughout your day?
Do you theoretically love what you do but struggle to focus and feel burnout out by the end of day or week?
Not taking enough breaks could be a major contributing factor.
There is a lot we can learn from NASCAR driver’s pit stops to reduce chances of spinout and crashes.
Read MoreOne of the biggest gifts the pandemic gave me over the past year was the opportunity to strengthen my mental fitness, i.e., my ability to respond to life’s challenges with a more positive than negative mindset.
There were so many things that didn’t go as planned, things I thought I needed to go a certain way in order to be happy. I was wrong. It turns out the right mindset goes a long way.
Read MoreWant to save time this week so you can breathe a little lighter and get more done?
Try setting your goals and planning your week in advance. Yes, it takes energy upfront but done well it can save you countless hours in the long run.
How do you feel when someone judges you? Especially if it's a dear friend, spouse or boss?
It can feel pretty crappy when it’s someone you respect or care about. If we aren’t careful, it can breed resentment, self-doubt, anger and pain.
Yet we continue to judge people all the time, especially our loved ones, straining the relationships that are most precious to us.
Read MoreDo you have someone in your life that triggers and upsets you frequently? Someone that makes you want to scream, hiss or run away. Perhaps it’s a boss, colleague, parent, spouse or kid?
You love them, but damn, they get under your skin sometimes.
Next time you get triggered by one of them, ask yourself this question:
Read MoreDid you know that your greatest natural strength can be your greatest weakness when taken to the extreme?
For example, a naturally empathic, loving and giving person, when taken to the extreme could become a people-pleaser who over-gives at the expense of themselves.
What was once a natural strength when abused or overused can become a “shadow” that sabotages your life. It keeps you from feeling good and thus achieving your goals.
Read MoreAre you frustrated with not following through on your calendar or achieving your goals?
Chances are you probably fall into one or more of these categories:
You’re not living in alignment with your true values and dreams.
You’re judging yourself harshly and loving yourself with conditions.
You’re trying to be someone you’re not.
